After reading some or all of my blog, do you have any questions that I haven’t addressed? As someone who has experienced the trauma of abortion, hidden the shame for two decades, gone through healing for myself, learned how to talk to my children about it, and currently help lead others through healing, I can provide a wide range of help from many different perspectives.
You can comment as “anonymous,” and I will respect your privacy by not responding to anyone by name. I may be able to reply quickly in the comments, or I might address some questions in future blog posts.
If you or someone you know has had an abortion at some point in the past, and you want to help them recover, please remember this. There is a spectrum of readiness. Some people will be ready as soon as they learn of the existence of such help, and others will be shocked that anyone is talking about abortion at all, and strive to avoid the topic all together. Be patient, and keep praying for all of them.
Here’s something else to think about. Have you ever been a part of someone else’s abortion, and now you feel regret or guilt? Did you pay or help out with some of the fee? Did you drive someone to the clinic? Did you simply remain silent and not tell someone to reconsider? Maybe a healing journey would be helpful for you as well.
Finally, maybe you did try to help someone make a choice for life, and they didn’t listen. Maybe they were too scared to hope for promised support. Maybe they were forced by someone else. If you’re suffering from a past inability to prevent someone’s abortion, this is indeed a heavy weight to carry. You would also qualify for and benefit from a healing retreat or Bible study.
No matter the situation, God cares for you and the details you struggle with. So, “Cast your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
Talk to someone about it. It’s ok to stumble through a difficult conversation. The important thing is to get the conversation started. The enemy of our souls wants us to keep silent and stuck, even imprisoned in our suffering. But God wants to lead us out of captivity and into open and spacious places. The only reason I can offer this passage of mighty hope and promises is because I’ve experienced God’s grace and mercy first-hand. I would like to encourage you to blindly, fearlessly or fearfully, either way, but definitely courageously dare to hope in Him too,
The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
because the Lord has anointed me
to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim freedom for the captives
and release from darkness for the prisoners,
to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
a planting of the Lord
for the display of his splendor.
I praise God for His faithfulness!